Drawing Room, Parlor, Living Room and other room names

In my house as a child, we didn't have a "drawing room," but I read about them in novels and heard the term used in movies. I wanted one.

A drawing room is a formal living room in a house, traditionally used for entertaining guests. Today, the term is less common in the U.S. (we’d just say "living room" and some old timers might say "sitting room"), but drawing room is still sometimes used in Britain, in historical fiction, and period dramas.

But who is drawing in these rooms?

The term comes from the 17th-century shortening of withdrawing room — a space where people could “withdraw” after dinner for conversation, tea, or other socializing, away from the more functional rooms like the dining room or kitchen.

In historic English and upper-class homes, the drawing room was usually elegantly furnished and he social hub for polite company. There was no eating of full meals there, but it was often positioned near the dining room for ease of transition after dinner, and there might be drinks and finger foods.

What are the differences between a drawing room, parlor, and living room, since they’re related but not identical?

Parlor, from the French parler (to speak), was originally a reception room for guests or clergy. In Victorian times, it was also a place for family events like weddings or funerals. It could be formal or semi-formal, depending on the household. Less exclusive than a drawing room, it might be where the family actually sat and talked.

As I said earlier, in my house we had a dining room and a living room, a term popularized in the late 19th and early 20th centuries as homes became less formal. It was a comfortable, everyday space for the family. Sometimes, we lounged there. Sometimes I napped or slept there after dozing off watching TV. It was also as formal as we could be with guests.

A drawing room says, “Let’s impress the guests.” A parlor says, “Let’s sit and talk.” The living room says, “Let’s relax and be ourselves.”